What looks human, cries often and takes two hours to drink a single cup of coffee in the morning? Moms of children, but specifically, moms of children experiencing sleep regression. My pediatrician warned me. She […]
What looks human, cries often and takes two hours to drink a single cup of coffee in the morning? Moms of children, but specifically, moms of children experiencing sleep regression. My pediatrician warned me. She said the 4-month mark would probably bring unwanted sleep patterns to my perfectly sleeping baby. We are approaching the fourth month, and it came to bite us early! Pray for us.
At the time, I was very lucky, and Bellamy would sleep on her own in her rocker from 9:30 p.m. to 5:30 a.m. When she would wake up, I would bring her to bed with me for the last bit of sleep. That window of time has been getting shorter and shorter as she navigates this sleep change each night. The worst night’s window started at MIDNIGHT. The kid didn’t even go to sleep until 10:30 p.m.! I wanted to cry the minute I heard her little, “Ehh! EHH!” Matt says Bellamy has levels of warning she gives via cry until she has lost her mind and you feel you just stepped on the tail of an angry cat, or a rabid goat. The sounds get pretty weird.
Anyway, depending on your “parenting style,” you are possibly wondering why I don’t let her try to get to sleep on her own or cry it out a night or two. We live in a small apartment, and she basically is in our room no matter where she is inside. Whatever she’s going through, we ALL are going through. I personally do not have a parenting style or put restrictions on my parenting unless convicted otherwise, and it hasn’t seemed worth it to put my family through hell when she really just wants to know we are there! And we are! We are actually very, very close to her at all times, so it’s easier to put her in bed with the two of us than any other alternative.
Because I am currently up close and personal with her while she attempts to sleep, I have been noticing some funny quirks she’s developed. She doesn’t take a night feed any longer, but she will still do that super cute “baby bird” thing when she thinks you have a pacifier to give her. While she’s darting her head all around with her mouth open, she also has all four limbs punching whatever is around her. I am the one who routinely gets up with her, so I am the one getting kicked, punched and scrapped all night thanks to her blossoming motor skills. She hates when she has on socks or when blankets are covering her, so I have to figure out a way to lay with her, cover myself, keep her uncovered, keep a pacifier in her mouth, give her something else to grab with her crazy hands and also avoid getting beaten up. It’s a job! I work the late shift.
The sweet part to this sour transition is her need to be close to us. When she finally settles down and stops moving, she nudges her way as close to my body as possible. If I move away, she moves closer. If I am too far away, she will extend her arms out to try and touch me in her sleep to know I am there. It is equal parts amazing and heartbreakingly precious to me. No matter how little sleep we both get, she somehow wakes up happy and smiley every morning. I am adapting pretty quickly, and will probably have to learn to sleep well again once she gets through this. By that time, she will have a new set of patterns to learn, and this will just be a story. It’s so true that kids keep you on your toes! Like I said, pray for us!
Editor’s note: The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends parents share a room with their newborn, for at least the first six months, but not the same sleeping surface.