When to try again
Should you have a miscarriage or if you’re walking that path right now, the most important thing is to be gentle with yourself. Take time to mourn your loss in whatever way you’re comfortable. Be mad. Be sad. And let someone be those things with you. It’s an emotional time, and the fluctuating hormones don’t help.
Talk about when you can try to get pregnant again with your care provider. Her advice will depend on how your miscarriage went and how far into the pregnancy you were. My first happened so early that my OB said we could try again right away. With the second, she suggested waiting about 8 to 10 weeks to give my hormones a chance to level out and let my cycle return to normal.
If and when you are ready, it can be tough to swallow the fear that it might happen again, but know that the vast majority of women who have miscarried go on to have successful pregnancies.
In fact, most OBs won’t advise further evaluation by a fertility specialist until a woman has had at least three miscarriages.
Not long ago, I was teetering on the edge of three, and the thought of going through another loss terrified me. I didn’t know if I could take it—at least not anytime soon, so my husband and I decided to table it for a few months. The pressure was off, and, perhaps not so surprisingly, I got pregnant almost immediately. As of writing this, I’m at 19 weeks and counting. My journey toward motherhood included a few bumps I wasn’t expecting, but that only makes me cherish every step forward even more.