When you’re in the office, maintain a professional attitude, and leave the mama drama at home. You’ll be tired and missing your baby some days, especially in the beginning, but don’t dwell on that around your co-workers. (Text a mom friend if you need to.) You’re there to do your job, so do it, and do it well.
Life goes on
Being a working mom has both its trials and its triumphs. Guilt can play a heavy hand, particularly for mothers who don’t necessarily want to be working but don’t have an option due to financial burdens or other factors. Not all moms work out of necessity, though. Many moms, such as Wright, work by choice. “Instead of focusing on what I was missing out on when I decided to go back to work, I focused on how much I love the work that I do,” she says.
Besides, being the child of a working mom isn’t necessarily a bad thing. In fact, research shows that working mothers can and do raise children who grow to become hardworking, responsible adults. A study of 50,000 adults in 25 different countries published by Harvard Business School found that children benefit in several ways from having a working mom. Daughters of working mothers were more likely to hold jobs themselves, have supervisory responsibilities at those jobs and earn higher wages. And sons raised by working mothers were more likely to help with household chores and care for family members. Sounds like a positive to us! Working mothers are often a child’s most influential role model. “Growing up, I watched my mom work hard, struggle and overcome,” shares Wright, “… and through that, I learned values, integrity and character.”
Working might require you to be away from your wee ones for many hours each day, but that doesn’t mean it’s a bad deal. For many moms, that time away makes them all the better in the hours they’re home. “I know myself, and I am a better wife, mom and friend when I use my talents to live out my passion at work,” says Wright.
Be proud of yourself, knowing that every day you work hard out in the world—or at home—you’re setting a great example for your child. Working, stay-at-home or somewhere in between, we all want to be great mamas to our growing broods. And thankfully, there are many different ways to do just that.