There are many online and local support groups for parents of multiples, or you may find a group of friends in your community who can relate to what you are going through. Having fellow mamas and papas to laugh, vent and share life with can be a sanity-saver while raising a family.
“If someone offers help of any kind, take it,” urges Kelsey Raper, mother of four, including twins, in Kansas City, Missouri. Many people offer help early on or during pregnancy but don’t know where to start. Do not be afraid to ask friends or family to clean your house, bring over meals, rock babies while you rest or shower, or do carpool for older siblings.
It can be really hard for a new mom to accept help, but with multiples you will find that it is a huge blessing. “I was overwhelmed by how generous people are—from the time I announced we were expecting triplets to this very day,” says Laura Fecak, mother of five, including triplets, in Toms River, New Jersey.
Embrace it and enjoy it
Raising twins or more is an exhausting and sometimes overwhelming job, but it is also a unique experience filled with immense joy. Watching the bond that my triplets have is heartwarming. When I think I can no longer handle the stress or dread the idea of facing yet another diaper change,
I watch them play together, cheer each other on and comfort one another. Then I remember I am part of something special that few people will have the privilege of experiencing firsthand. Finding joy in the small moments makes it easier to embrace the challenges.