Q: My mother-in-law is making a big deal about being in the delivery room, even though my mom has decided to pass time in the waiting room in the interest of my privacy. My hubby […]
Q: My mother-in-law is making a big deal about being in the delivery room, even though my mom has decided to pass time in the waiting room in the interest of my privacy. My hubby doesn’t care if his mom is in there with us and thinks I shouldn’t, either. What do I do?
A: Whether you want the blessed event filmed for a family screening or prefer to do your labor 1950s-style with everyone waiting to hear the big news from the doctor is completely up to you. We’re not sure Emily Post has a chapter on intrusive delivery room guests and how to tell them to politely get out, so it might be best to have a little chat with your MIL now. Let her know that while you love and appreciate her interest in being a part of this day, you’re just not comfortable with her having the low-down on whether or not you wax. Perhaps you could ask her to knit some newborn booties or the blanket you’ll wrap your son in to keep her involved with—but not in on—the birth. Or better yet, ask your own mother to keep her busy with a great game of cards or Scrabble in the waiting room.