Utilize alone time
During bumphood it’s natural to focus on preparing for your little one’s arrival, but don’t neglect your relationship during this special time. These are the last few months you will spend as just the two of you, so make a point to shower your partner with extra affection when the mood strikes and squeeze in as many extra date nights as the calendar allows. You won’t regret it.
It’s no secret, you both have them (whether you know it or not), and after birth is not the best time to bring potentially sore subjects to the table. Talk about the hot topics such as the division of house- hold chores and who will do what. (While you both tackle the to-do list, make sure to thank each other every day!) Figure out how you will carve out time—specifically time out, together or completely alone—to pour into other things. It’s also a good idea to map out your foreseeable expenses now and earmark what you can for savings and unexpected costs. By planning ahead, you can jointly decide how to manage your finances and prepare for each purchase. Once the lines of communication are wide open, don’t be afraid to introduce topics like sex, parenting styles and grandparents. The more you talk now, the better.
As difficult as it may be in the moment, adopting an optimistic outlook on things can really help smooth over bumps in the road. When you’re sleep deprived and surrounded by clutter and piles of dirty clothes, try focusing on something positive (such as a clean and fed baby) versus the things that weigh you down physically and emotionally. And if you find yourself in the middle of a spat (it happens!), remember you are not alone, and strain on new-parent relationships is totally normal. Give each other the benefit of the doubt, and do your best to just enjoy every minute with your new crew.