The keys to maintaining a friendship with your kid-free comrade.
Clue her in
You’ve both endured hangovers and breakups, and you learned from experience how to get each other through them. If your longtime gal pal hasn’t been pregnant or perpetually sleep-deprived, though, she may have a hard time knowing what you need now. Fill her in on how you’re feeling and what your current challenges and triumphs are, so she can lift you up, cheer you on and share a pint of Ben & Jerry’s as needed.
Split the spotlight
Just because everything in your life is new and exciting doesn’t mean what’s going on in hers doesn’t warrant some attention, too. Find out how work is going, whether she got tickets to the Colony House concert and what she’s up to this weekend. As much as she loves to hear about your wee one, she’s eager to update you on the latest in her world as well.
Take it easy
Motherhood may be the best thing that ever happened to you, but that doesn’t mean your BFF will be ready to jump on the bandwagon. Avoid the “So when are you going to have a baby?” questions, and skip the “Just wait until you’re a mom, then you’ll understand” remarks, too. Whether she’s struggling with infertility, still searching for the right partner or simply not interested in procreating, she’ll appreciate you respecting her path.
Tip: If your girlfriend mentions a big event—job interview, first date, upcoming trip—set a calendar reminder on your phone for the day before, so you can shoot her a quick text. Your thoughtfulness won’t go unnoticed!