After sharing my blog post from last week, a sweet mama gave me a gentle reminder on Instagram that I needed to hear. I have a long list of things to get done in the next nine weeks—a whopping total of 59 items to cross off! But she suggested I add a few more things to my list: “Sit quietly for more than one minute; take a random nap; do one selfish thing.” And I’m glad she did! Sometimes I get so wrapped up in the prep work that I forget to enjoy the ride. (The same is true of me and vacations.)
So, this past weekend, I did those three things—some more than once. I quietly sipped a morning cup of tea on the deck as the sun just started to warm up my backyard. I dozed off on the couch with my dog curled up next to me. I had a long lunch with a friend to catch up on life over fries (my No. 1 guilty pleasure). It was so reenergizing to just stop and appreciate the stage of life that I am currently in, to acknowledge and savor those slices of joy in my day.
My little one isn’t even here yet, and I am already beginning to understand and feel the urge to put baby first … but I’m also learning that doing so doesn’t mean mom has to be last. You are important. Taking care of yourself is an integral part of taking care of your tiny babe (whether he’s in there kicking your ribs or in your arms). There should be no guilt in that. I want to give my kiddo the best version of myself. (This isn’t about being perfect. There’s no such thing. And I’m sure Birdie will see and learn my many attributes that make me human.) But this weekend I was reminded that taking a few minutes to sit quietly and just breathe helps me be more present, more patient and more grateful. And that’s the kind of mother I hope to be.
So this is me encouraging other mamas to make time for those same three things. You might be surprised how much of a difference it makes in your day. I was! And I haven’t crossed them off my old-school pen-and-paper to-do list yet either. Normally I love putting a line through something I’ve finished to give myself that little pat on the back, but I think I’ll leave these on there for a while and come back to them a few more times before my due date.
Another “selfish” thing I recently did that I’d highly recommend: Get a pretty set of pj’s. It’s funny that a matching sleep set makes me feel put-together and like a full-fledged adult, especially considering that the last one I had was probably from Limited Too. But, with these floral pretties, I know I won’t mind staying in my pajamas all day when I’m cuddled up with my brand-new babe. (Plus, the button top will be terrific for nursing!)