Baby Deke is officially 3 months old! According to Dr. Karp, he’s graduated from the “fourth trimester.” Do you know Harvey Karp? He’s the author of The Happiest Baby on the Block. I watched his corresponding video while I was in labor with my first baby (I had some down time after the epidural), and his “5 S’s” are still in use at our house today. I interviewed Dr. Karp for an article back in 2009 and was completely giddy and star struck when I heard his voice over the phone!
Anyway, Karp’s “fourth trimester” concept states that baby isn’t completely ready to enter the world at the time of his birth. The womb becomes unsustainable after 40-ish weeks, so baby is forced to continue his development on the outside. However, his nervous system is immature, so he has a rough time adapting to life beyond the womb (some babies more than others!). In month four, baby’s temperament starts to settle down and he can enjoy interacting with his world and the people in it.
Oh my goodness, has Deke gotten cuter! His hair has grown back in, all soft and fuzzy like a baby chick. It’s still deciding whether it’s going to be blonde or brown. His skin is glowy and about 95 percent cleared up. He also acquired long, dark eyelashes overnight at about 2½ months.
Deke is long and less lean than he once was. He is softer and rounder and ever so cuddly. He fits perfectly into clothing sized 3-6 months, except when they have feet attached. My baby has LONG feet! He’s trying to grow out of his beautiful Freshly Picked moccasins sent by my bomb sister-in-law, but I just encourage him to curl his toes so we can get in a few more wears.
I am so grateful for my calm, happy baby! Deke is so, so smiley; lately, he also almost-kinda-sorta laughs. He is patient when his siblings get into his personal space and tote him around unnecessarily. He’s OK with riding in his car seat multiple times every day. He lets me work out while he chills in his chair. He seems like he “gets” our family and his place in it. Deke also loves his nightly bath. He kicks and splashes in the warm water until we decide to pull him out (usually because he’s peed)—it will be really cool to look back at this if he becomes our swimmer in the future!
It seems as if Deke and I have reached an understanding about nighttime sleep. After bottle and bath time, Deke is ready to put on pj’s, get swaddled, take his binky, and close his eyes. He will then sleep pretty well through the night. He’s still in my room in a Rock ‘n’ Play by my bed. He knows he’s not going to get fed at night, so if he wakes up and fusses, I just snuggle him back to sleep.
Now that Deke’s fourth trimester is over, I’m ready for mine to be over, too! By the way my skin and metabolism are behaving, it seems like my hormones are not willing to level back to normal just yet. And I have 18 pounds to lose to get back to pre-pregnancy weight! (Not pre-motherhood, just pre-this-pregnancy—let’s be real, people.) This postpartum thing is getting old.