Just because you’re going to be a single mom doesn’t mean you’ve had your last orgasm with another live human participant, assures Rachel Sarah, author of Single Mom Seeking: Playdates, Blind Dates, and Other Dispatches from the Dating World. Eventually, you’ll find someone to harmonize with your new mommy melody. When you’re ready to date again, heed Sarah’s advice from the trenches:
- Be upfront about your baby and start any potential relationship on the right foot to avoid surprises later.
- Set your standards high, since whoever you invite into your life must be truly worthy of you and your baby.
- Watch for red flags, like possessiveness, unpaid debt, unsettled divorce or a quick temper, in order to steer clear of nothing-but-bad-news dudes.
Are there any perks to single-handed child-rearing? You bet. You get to call all the shots (no fighting over when baby should go to bed or what she should wear for her first photos) and snag all of baby’s snuggles for yourself.